Are married people re-united in the afterlife? What happens when someone was married more than once on “Earth”? Which partner do they re-unite with in Heaven?
There are many, many thorny issues about what happens after we die – but none are “thornier” than the never ending question of exactly WHO it is that we spend our time with, once we arrive 🙂 After all…..if you think about it a bit, there can be some pretty complex questions about what exactly happens, in a whole variety of different relationship style conundrums, once all parties involved cross over to the other side.
What about someone who lived to be 100, and was married 3 times in THIS life? (or even someone who lived to 50, and was married 4?)
Which partner do they get to see when they arrive? Or, what about someone who was married once to someone they truly loved, but their partner had been married before, and considered THAT person to be their soul mate or twin flame?
You can see how quickly ideas of intimacy, identity and relationship can get pretty complicated and hard to navigate, depending on what sort of beliefs you take onboard to get to your ideal conception of what Heaven really ought to look like.
In my view?
I believe that true love, the sort of love that is available to all of us, IS in fact what we gravitate to on the other side. And that those who fall into our “soul” families, by dint of how they loved us and supported us, and stood beside us during life, are ALL available to us in the world that awaits. And of course there is a lot more to say about that, but as a general rule, that has been my experience of what others experience, in NDE’s, and end of life experiences of all kinds.
For more on what the great (and largely forgotten) spiritual scientist Emanuel Swedenborg had to say about true love in the afterlife, check out the full article following the short excerpt below!
Swedenborg describes seeing married couples reunited after death. But did they stay together eternally? Well . . . maybe:
It often happens that married partners meet [in the afterlife] and welcome each other joyfully. They stay together as well, but for a longer or shorter time depending on how happily they had lived together in the world. Ultimately, unless they had been united by real marriage love (which is a union of minds from heavenly love), they separate after having been together for a while. (Heaven and Hell 494)
This is where Swedenborg departs from the popular view of love in the afterlife: he says that if two people who were together in life weren’t really in love, then they won’t be together in heaven either. Swedenborg describes incompatible couples as gradually growing farther and farther apart. Each is attracted to people with whom they have more in common: “Like are drawn toward like.” However, if two people are truly in love, they will grow closer to each other in heaven.
If people in the afterlife find themselves incompatible with their former partners, or if they never experienced that kind of deep love while on earth, Swedenborg says, they can find their match in heaven: